Here’s how to keep your romance alive even after marriage

Think about your firsts—the first time your beau asked you out, your first kiss, the flirting and all things mushy and fun! It’s an inexplicable, magical feeling. Yet, they say love fades over time, especially after marriage. Long-term relationships and a lifetime commitment to someone brings about a sense of stability in one’s life—just as it should. However, some may perceive it as running out of love, or the advent of boredom, or the dulling of a once sparkling romance. But this doesn’t necessarily mean the end of a relationship or marriage. The truth is, any relationship, including marriage, requires constant effort from both individuals to adapt and evolve with time. It requires you to establish new patterns and perhaps go back to old ones. For those engulfed in a new romance, or for those looking to rekindle the spark in their marriage, here’s a guide on how to keep your romance alive. 

Flirt, flirt and flirt some more 

One of the simplest ways to rekindle a romance is flirting with your partner. If you’ve been married for a long time, this could mean going back in time and using the pick-up lines and flirty remarks that you did all those years ago to pursue your beau. Make them relive those cutesy memories and remind them that you love them even more. You can also catch them by surprise sometimes by writing a little note complimenting them or sending them flirty meme in their middle of their work day. At other times, flirting can also look like deep conversations under the stars, eye contact, and sneaking in a kiss before a busy day. 

Have regular date nights 
Remember the time when you couldn’t have enough of the other person? When every other day was a date night to the movies, club, or beach? It’s time bring date night back. When you’re in long-term relationship or marriage, the two of you may settle down in familiar patterns which may bring in some monotony. To break the pattern, it’s important to spend time with each other beyond your routine. Dedicate one day of the week to try something new with your partner—it could be a new restaurant; a cooking, yoga or dance workshop; a road-trip or a movie night. 

Explore different forms of physical intimacy 

When you’re in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, physical intimacy comes easy, but as your grow older, it becomes increasingly important to understand your needs as well as your partner’s and work your way through it. You can turn up the heat by cuddling more often, holding hands, and even experimenting in the bedroom. Different people may have different love languages, but that doesn’t mean they don’t like a good, steamy session once in a while or a peck on the cheek every morning. Strengthening your physical intimacy will also make you feel closer to your partner and rekindle the romance you’ve been wanting to.

Plan a vacation 
Sometimes the monotony maybe because of the din of city life and mundane routine and little to do with the two of you. So, we’d definitely recommend planning a holiday every once in a while to get away from your regular routine and travel to a place that has been idling on your bucket list. This will enable newer conversations and a deeper understanding of each other in a completely different environment. 

Surprise your partner 

This does not necessarily need to be the greatest romantic gesture of all time, but surprising your partner can go a long way in creating memorable moments, experiences and simply bringing a smile to their face. You can do this by cooking a meal for them, packing their lunch, buying them dessert after a long day or anything else. Try making it as personal and intimate as you can and let this be a reminder and celebration of your love.