Questions to ask your partner before getting married

When we think of getting married, we think of falling in love and being happily ever after. However, ‘forever’ is not full of rainbows and unicorns. The truth is, you will hit rough patches. And while you can’t expect life to not throw any curveballs at you, you can strengthen your relationship to withstand it all. And that preparation starts by asking the right questions and having all the tough conversations before you’ll are married. 

Here are a few questions you should ask your partner before tying the knot. It’s better to be prepared than blindsided. 

How will we handle our finances? 

First and foremost, you need to talk about money. You might’ve been walking on eggshells around the topic but before you get married discussing how you will handle your finances is a must. Money has the potential to become a stress point between couples. So getting on the same page early on can only help in the long run. Ask questions like—do we share debt? Do we have a joint account? How will we prioritise spending and saving? 

What are your opinions about childcare and pregnancy? 

You’d assume that everyone talks about children before they get married but it doesn’t always happen. Even if you and your partner are on the same page wanting children, there is a much larger conversation to be had. From how many children you’ll want to your parenting strategies, it’s a much larger conversation to be had.

You don’t want to be blindsided in the future, do you? 

How will we deal with in-laws? 

When trying to create a new family, it’s crucial to first set boundaries with the in-laws. While it’s enduring when your partner is close to their family, it may come to be a problem later. Especially if you and your partner’s family don’t see eye to eye on most things. Questions like—Will you prioritise our relationship? Will you stand up to your family and take my side if there is a disagreement? One awkward conversation can go a long way. 

What are your expectations around sex?  

Partners may have differing opinions on sex. Asking them questions like how often they think it should happen or if they have any fantasies that they would like to try will help you come on the same page. It’s crucial to explore all forms of intimacy.