How to Break the Ice on a First (Virtual) Date

The domain of dating has witnessed drastic changes over the past few years—especially over the last year and a half due to the ongoing pandemic. And with dating apps gamifying the process of finding love online, getting the conversation going and keeping all awkwardness at bay is seeming to become a bit of a problem. 

Since stepping out (and meeting absolute strangers) is a big no-no at the moment, several romantics have jumped on the virtual dating bandwagon in the pursuit of finding a potential soulmate. But contrary to popular belief, online dating requires a heap of effort and patience, maybe even more than in-person dating! Yet, the platform offers a fun way to stir some interesting conversations. 

Although, one may find it difficult to break the ice on a first date, especially with someone they've never met before. And even if you've been messaging back and forth for a while—or had a couple of phone calls—it's not all that easy to get your conversation flowing on the actual date.

To add some sugar and spice to your virtual convo, Palash Borah from Blued India, an app fostering GBTQ connections, shares some helpful conversation-starter tips. Note them down!

Blast From the Past

To skip the initial awkwardness, tell your date one of your most memorable stories or anecdotes from the past—that may or may not be true—and get them to figure which one it is! This could potentially lead to some light laughter and harmless chuckles, the perfect ice-breaker. 

Knock-Knock?

Formal greetings will land you nowhere but in a super awkward place. So why not give a hilarious knock-knock joke in the first shot? (or any other witty one you have up your sleeve). 

Hypothetical Scenarios

Why not begin your conversation by describing where you’d have set up this date instead if it weren't for the lockdown? Walk them through how the date would go—with details if you please. This simple conversation starter will not only make your date interesting but will leave your partner wanting more.

Games Night

Online dating has always been about playing the field—so, take the opportunity to play some fun games that'll make the process of 'opening up' less tortuous and daunting. Get to know about your date's interests, likes and dislikes, all via the game.

The Future of Communication—GIFs

A giphy (or GIF)  is a language in itself. Thanks to the latest technology, there are an array of giphy stickers available that can be used to turn a conversation from drab to fab. After all, what better way to boost your conversation than adding a dozen ounces of fun to it? 

A Bit of Pre-Date Stalking

While it may seem a bit stalker-ish, you must look up your date on social media and pen down a few points that caught your eye. For instance, you could casually inquire about their Instagram handle name or their unusual display picture. This may suggest that you're genuinely interested in learning more about them. 

Explore Your Creative Juices

Maybe (virtually) whip up a recipe together? This way you'll not only be creating a mess but also memories! Alternatively, engage in any other activity of your choice. You could also exchange music playlists to get to know a bit about each other’s tastes. If you want to scratch the surface and genuinely bond with your date, you've got to dig deep!