Wedding shopping with your in-laws? Here's how to keep it fun (and drama-free)

Picture this: Your wedding is just around the corner, and you're about to dive into one of the most exciting pre-wedding rituals—shopping. But here's the twist: you're not doing it solo. You're doing it with a group of people who may have strong opinions on what you buy, how you buy it, where you go, how much you spend, and who pays for what. Yes, I am talking about your in-laws. Starting to feel a little suffocated? There’s more to it.

Wedding shopping, especially in India, is more about respect and tradition than it is about the shopping itself. They say it’s not just two people getting married; it is a union between the families, and practically, this arrangement starts way before the actual wedding. If you are not prepared, your outfit could look like a bunch of opinions put together on your wedding day. To avoid a situation like this, we have put together a guide that will help you navigate the whole wedding shopping saga gracefully. 

Curate a "safe" shopping list

Let’s be honest: shopping with your in-laws will come with opinions, whether you welcome them or not. To avoid unnecessary disagreements (and potential future tension), create a “safe” shopping list before the trip. This list should include items you’re comfortable getting input on, like on kaleeras, your mehendi outfit, food tastings, or even décor planning. These are decisions that can genuinely benefit from multiple perspectives. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day, and no wedding shopping spree ever got done in one, either. Save your non-negotiables, like your dream lehenga or heirloom-worthy jewellery, for a solo trip or one with just your trusted confidantes.

Dress for the day (and the company)

Depending on the season you go shopping (especially if it’s summer), opt for light, breathable fabrics. Trust us, nothing kills the mood faster than an itchy outfit under the blazing sun. Comfort isn’t just about avoiding sweat patches and crankiness; it’s also about being prepared for surprise company. Yes, we’re talking about those in-law friends or extended family members you’ve never met but who are very excited about your wedding and may show up unannounced at the store. To avoid unnecessary judgment or awkward glances, it’s best to dress modestly and smartly.

Set a budget and discuss it beforehand

Before you dive into shopping, have an open conversation about the budget. Know your own limits, and if you're shopping with your in-laws, it’s equally important to understand theirs. Going over budget—on either side—can lead to discomfort or awkwardness. If you’re covering the expenses, communicate your range clearly and don’t be afraid to say no (politely, of course). Consider this your first step in setting healthy boundaries. Also, clarify who pays for what beforehand. This avoids confusion, smooths out the day, and helps everyone plan better.

Set boundaries 

This one is as important as setting a budget. Setting boundaries does not mean being rude. It is a step towards a healthy and respectful relationship. Shopping for the wedding means spending a lot of time together. On occasions like these, boundaries can be easily overstepped.

Acknowledge their excitement

It’s their son’s wedding too, so their excitement is just as valid as yours. Yes, it can feel overwhelming at times, especially when opinions start pouring in from all directions. But a little empathy goes a long way. Involve them in small decisions, ask for their input where you’re comfortable, and make them feel seen and valued. Sometimes, just listening is enough. It’s these small gestures that lay the foundation for a warm, respectful bond.

Pro tip: Make sure to take frequent breaks and hydrate yourself while you are out shopping. It keeps your mood and your body refreshed. This can be your time to bond with your in-laws and make memories, because the best relationships are made when you are yourself. 

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