Signs your partner wants to marry you

Dating is not how it used to be a decade ago. Back then, it was rather sweet and simple. You have your meet-cute, you start talking every day, the sparks would be flying all around and you would know that they are going to ask you out. And then, for better or for worse, things changed. Today, you have situationships and commitment phobia, which makes the talking stage rather unpredictable. And if you do get into a relationship, how do you know when your partner has reached the stage where they know they want to marry you? 

Of course, the simplest thing to do is just ask. But more often than not, we’d like to see just a few signs before having ‘the talk’. We want to know whether our partner is on the same page or if it will be a heartbreaking conversation. Sometimes, we stay delulu, just so we can delay the heartbreak or convince ourselves that we don’t need more from the relationship either. Not a healthy way to go about things but who said humans always do the right thing? 

If you are guarding your feelings, like the rest of our generation, looking for signs to know if your partner is on the same page as you, here are some telltale signs that say your relationship has marriage potential. 

They prioritise you 

There is nothing more special than offering your time to a loved one. After spending an entire week slogging at work, their priority during the weekend is to spend time with you—even if it means spending a little less time lying down. They are happy to make time for you when they could be doing absolutely anything else or nothing at all (the joy of this is underhyped!). A person who doesn’t see you in their future won’t prioritise you in their life, so if they do, you know where this is going. 

They genuinely make an effort to meet your needs 

You may be someone who needs a lot of verbal expression of love and they may not be as expressive. Or you may love the idea of horror movies while they would rather watch an anime series. But they go out of their way to meet you mid-way or all the way, sometimes! When you fight over something and you communicate your needs, they don’t act like they don’t care to solve the problem. Not resolving the issue is never an option because they genuinely want to put effort into making your relationship flourish and last…forever! 

You’ve been celebrating important festivals together 

If both of you feel this urge to meet on important festivals and occasions and celebrate together, it is probably because you belong together. You want to see how celebrating Diwali, for instance, feels like with them. You know, because if you do marry, you will have to celebrate together and you should feel aligned with them on that.

You’ve met his family and friends 

We’ve all been in that position wherein our exes entered our social circle and left like they never existed. Honestly, it gets awkward. We’ve learnt from these experiences, and are more cautious now in terms of who we let in our circle and at what stage. So, if you are part of their inner circle and their people treat you with utmost love and respect, it’s because they see how much your partner is serious about you. They know you are in for the long haul, and in all likelihood, one of them will be assigned to take a video of your boo going down on their knees! 

They’ve asked you what kind of wedding you prefer 

This is literally them, imagining the kind of wedding the two of you can have. They would want to know whether your idea of a perfect wedding is similar to theirs. Or at least, isn’t completely bizarre! They are probably planning your wedding budget, as we speak!

They include you in their future 

If they casually talk about places they want to travel to with you or how they would love to go for a run every morning once you start living together, you know what it means. They love you and would love to have you with them, for the rest of their lives—be it in mundane things such as grocery shopping or something exciting like having tea and macaroons with you at the Ladurée bakery in France. They are in it, for fun things, boring things, and everything in between! 

You are not afraid of losing them

And this is not because you don’t value them but because after years of anxious and insecure attachment with exes, you’ve finally found a home for your heart. You feel loved and secure with them, knowing that they care as much about the relationship as you do. You know that they won’t give up on this relationship and will continue putting in the work. This is definitely a sign that your relationship has marriage potential!

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