5 Most Common Reasons Why Marriages Break And How To Deal With Them
Partnerships, whether in business or in personal life, require effort and patience especially when it comes to marriages. Sure, being in love with each other is definitely the hallmark of a happy marriage, but it is seldom enough. Millennial marriage coach Leena Paranjpe shares from her two-decade-long experience helping couples find their happily ever after, 'Most commonly, the problems a couple faces in their marriage are mostly due to lack of communication, recurring arguments, domestic violence, verbal and physical abuse. I have also noticed that marriage counselling or couple counselling fail only when one of the partners wants to save the relationship and the other doesn’t.' So, here are her tips to watch out for these common reasons for marital discord and how to tackle them amiably:
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Avoid parental interference
"While it is important to take the advice of your friends and family, parental interference in a couple's marital life can often cause discord. So, make sure to take their advice but make a decision along with your partner."
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Physical intimacy is as important as an emotional connection
"Couples must make sure to show some physical display of affection, even if it is just for five minutes, every day. From cuddling to holding hands or whatever they find comfortable, it is important to express your feelings to your partner. Physical contact releases Oxytocin in our bodies, which is the love hormone. This is essential because I feel that the human touch is missing in many marriages today."
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Enjoy the differences rather than change your partner
"It is important to know the difference between helping your partner make healthy changes in his/her life and wanting them to change according to your life choices. Everyone is different and couples should embrace their differences. Fights and arguments are inevitable, but if you have true respect for each other's differences, the tension does not last for long."
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Crossing boundaries in arguments
"Arguments are a part and parcel of every relationship. No two people can be on the same page every time. However, if the same pattern of arguments occurs, it is not progressive. The couples should fight and enjoy the friction but they should know when to exit. They should know how to reduce the anger, perhaps with humour or changing the topic or take a break in an argument rather than holding grudges or saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment."
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Open communication can often cause miscommunication
"Having open communication in a marriage is rather a risky move. It is usually not advised because open communication means saying whatever one thinks without a filter. A good way is to keep in touch throughout the day instead of just meeting at home every night. A brief text or call can do wonders to keep everyone on the same page and in touch."