Fun ways to heal and reclaim your joy after a breakup

Breakups can be tough, leaving you questioning your worth, revisiting old memories, or stuck in a loop of "what-ifs". You might replay conversations in your head, wonder if you could have done things differently, or find yourself scrolling through old photos late at night. It’s natural to feel a whirlpool of emotions—grief, anger, confusion—and struggle with the sudden changes in your daily routine. But here’s the good news: these endings can also be the beginning of something new. They’re a chance to refocus on yourself, strengthen your friendships, and channel your energy into rediscovering joy.

And when we talk about rediscovering joy, what better shoulder to lay your head on than your friends? From laughing until you cry to quiet moments of reflection, spending time together with them will remind you of the love and strength that surround you. On that note, here are some activities you can do with your girls and leave your ex back in 2024.

Host a skincare night

Whether you are into skincare or not, self-care nights are some of the best things ever. Gather your face masks, nail polish, and essential oils, light some candles, play soothing music, and let the stress melt away as you enjoy each other’s company. Pro tip: Try making your own scrubs or masks with natural ingredients for an extra fun twist.

Plan a vision board party

Now that the year is ending, vision boards for 2025 are IN. Grab magazines, scissors, and glue, and create those aesthetic vision boards that reflect your dreams and goals. Plus, seeing each other’s vision boards is also a surprisingly good bonding activity (source: your humble writer).

Go on a road trip

Turn the breakup into a chance at being an absolute queen (puns and references intended) and hit the open road for an adventure. Whether it’s a weekend getaway to a nearby town or a full-blown vacation, exploring new places with your besties can be invigorating. Plan some fun stops, take tons of pictures, and embrace the freedom of the journey.

Try a new hobby together

Rediscovering your passions is a great way to rebuild confidence. Join a pottery class, try cooking exotic dishes, or explore photography. Pursuing hobbies with your friends keeps your hands busy and your minds focused on creating something beautiful with the people you love.

Have a movie marathon

Gather your favourite feel-good movies, snacks, and blankets for a cozy night in. Watch classics like Legally Blonde or Eat Pray Love for that empowering feeling of letting go, go on a Ye Jawani Hai Deewani and Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara speedrun for a fun escape, or dive into a rom-com marathon to laugh off the blues. You could also combine this with the skincare night plan for the ultimate girls’ night in.

Go shopping or thrifting

Breakups are a pretty good excuse to reinvent your fashion, if you ask us. Take your friends on a shopping spree or a thrifting adventure. Try on bold outfits, experiment with new styles, and embrace the chance to reinvent your look. It’s not just retail therapy; it’s a celebration of the new you.

Visit a rage room

Sometimes, you just need to let it all out, and rage rooms are perfect for the occasion. Head to one with your girlfriends and smash plates, electronics, or other items in a safe and controlled environment. It’s a cathartic way to release pent-up emotions and have a good laugh together.

Write letters you’ll never send

Get together with your friends for a writing session and, in true To All The Boys I've Ever Loved fashion, pour your feelings into letters that you don’t intend to send (and make sure you don't send them!). Instead, read it out to your friends—it can help you process your emotions and also help bring you and your friends closer.

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