Real Brides Tell Us How To Deal With Those Pre-Wedding Jitters

You've sure dreamt of this day since you were sixteen, but that in no way means that you get to pass on those pre-wedding jitters. They may arise from nowhere, but you actually do know the underlying reason, you're freaking out about the wedding! It's fair enough and we understand what you are going through, which is why we got in touch with some brides who've been there and done that. They come to the rescue with some words of advice on how to keep calm and carry on through to your big day.

Chetana Guliani - 'Oh lord, constantly experiencing pre-wedding jitters! It's a lot of pressure to 'keep up with the Kapoors.' Social media and Bollywood have skewed people's expectations for weddings, and everyone out there is outdoing each other, or is keen on making their wedding an unforgettable experience. My fiancé and I just had to agree that once the budget was set in stone, we wouldn't budge from it. We've been planning for almost two years so you can imagine the different trends and ideas that we've resisted! Once I decided on my vendors , I unfollowed all major Instagram accounts. It's been so liberating, not knowing what's happening in someone else's world and has helped keep a tap on that anxiety. These days, if friends or family lovingly suggest an idea, I thank them but do inform them that if they want to see the idea incorporated, they're welcome to pay for it! My best friend also gave me a great tip to have a weekly date night with my fiancé, where we don't discuss our wedding at all. That has been a lifesaver for us! It's a great reminder that we need to invest in our companionship and our marriage, because people will eventually forget the wedding, but how do we make our marriage worthwhile?'

Aarushi Bahri - 'Pre-wedding anxiety? Oh yes, we've been there. I dealt with them by keeping myself busy with my job and not staying at home, to avoid all that overthinking. It's a strange feeling, a lot of mixed emotions, sometimes you're laughing and loving all the attention and then the next minute you're thinking of all the things that won't be the same anymore. New house, new people, leaving your family, and in my case moving across the globe, which certainly didn't help with that separation anxiety. So I decided to bury myself in my work until only 14 days remained. After work I'd go home, then would hit the gym, and then back home. My loved ones also suggested that I take one day at a time, and so I did. I set daily goals, scribbled them down, and satisfyingly ticked them off your list as and when. It felt good to get things done, and look back at them completed. Eating specific foods, I also went on a keto diet, and then regulated my own diet. I went to the gym regularly and also reduced my alcohol intake. All these things help, overall.'

Chandni Mahajan -'The personal challenge that I dealt with, was to pick up the best wedding lehenga, book the wedding venue, run multiple errands simultaneously, and also shed some kilos before the wedding day. I didn't think so much, I stayed calm and also tried not to take any impulsive decision while doing my bridal trousseau shopping. I in-fact felt extremely tense on the day of wedding. I was overthinking about the kind of arrangements made at the venue and experienced irrational fears such as, 'What if the wedding guests don't have a good experience when it comes to food?' or 'What if my freelance makeup artist doesn't reach on time?'. The most important one being, 'What if my in-laws find something to complain about?' My near and dear ones advised me to think positively and made me believe that everything would be under control, so I decided to enjoy the entire process and went with the flow. Additionally, I hired a personal trainer at home and also avoided junk food consumption.

Make it your priority to enjoy your wedding. We don't deny the fact that there will be hurdles and difficulties that you may have to overcome, but it's all a part and parcel of the experience. You must take it in your stride, keep calm, and carry on!