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Conversations to have with your to-be mother-in-law before the wedding

Conversations to have with your to-be mother-in-law before the wedding

Keeping an open line of communication is key!

    • Team Brides Today
  • Mar 03, 2024
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Keeping an open line of communication is key!

Before you deck up in the bridal outfit of your dreams and walk down the aisle towards the love of your life, one thing to cross off your to-do list is having a heart-to-heart with his mother. You might already get along with her but now that you are entering the family, you need to have all your bases covered and your expectations set to realistic standards. And this needs to happen before you tie the knot, not after. If you don’t know where to start, we’ve listed down a few talking points you should cover! 

Ask for her advice 

One of the best ways to build a bond with your mother-in-law is by asking her advice. From adjusting to life as a married woman and how to deal with conflicts that might occur between you and her son to how things work in their house, it could be about anything. This conversation will lay the foundation of trust between the two of you. 

Set boundaries, politely 

From parenting strategies to holidays and vacations, even the most well-meaning in-laws sometimes tend to go overboard. To avoid having a super awkward conversation in the future, it's better to set boundaries as early on as possible. But approaching this topic might be tedious so just remember to be polite, considerate and as direct as possible. 

Family traditions and rules  

Whether this is an arranged marriage or you’ve dated for years before you get married, it’s imperative to understand the kind of family you are marrying into. Do they have rigid rules and regulations that will impact your life in any way? Or are they more chill and supportive? This is a crucial topic to discuss with your to-be MIL because who knows the house and the family better than her? 

Ask her to tell you some of the most hilarious stories about your partner 

No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, there are a few things only their mother will be able to tell you. So, whatever you want to know, ask away. From their childhood and how to calm them down when they are hungry to their past relationships, a mother’s perspective can help. And you never know, this conversation might just forge a bond between the two of you.