How to go on a vacation with your fiancé without your parents finding out

Imagine this—you’re sitting at your desk, staring at your laptop screen and wondering why you’re in an office and not at the beach in a teeny tiny bikini, sipping away on cocktails. How nice would it be to be away holidaying with your bae? If you are engaged, you have all the more reasons to explore your wanderlust with your fiancé. However, unless they are okay with it, how do you go on a holiday with your fiancé without letting your families know?

Many South Asian families do not encourage couples to go on vacations during their courtship period. Your family may feel hesitant because they don’t want your partner’s family to judge. While they mean well, holidaying together may be good for you as a couple. And since the families now talk to each other, sneaking off to a vacation may seem rather difficult. 

Fret not, here are tips to help you plan a vacation with your fiancé without your families finding out. 

Plan your excuses 

Most Indian parents are protective of their daughters. Hence, you can tell your parents the real destination and dates. Let your partner tell their parents a different destination. For instance, if you are going to Goa, you can tell your parents that and let your partner tell their parents they are going to Jaipur. One of you can also make an excuse of a work trip. And then you can set off to a vacation with your partner.

Give an Oscar-winning performance 

When your parent is around, casually drop it in your conversation with your partner that you will be travelling on the dates you have planned. You have to pretend that you don’t know your parents are listening in. With you informing your partner about your travel plans, they will not even have an iota of suspicion that you’re going with your boo! 

Make it look like you’re going on different dates 

It will seem extremely suspicious if both of you are going to be away for exact same days. They shouldn’t suspect that you are going on a vacation with your partner. This will not be the most convenient thing to do but one of you will have to pretend to be away for at least one extra day. Stay at your bestie’s house or have a nice relaxing staycation in your city. This will keep your families off your back. If you think your families won’t care so much about the dates coinciding, then you can skip this step. You know your folks the best! 

Be mindful of your airport pick-ups and drops

Try to avoid giving your flight details to your families, if you feel they can come to the airport to either pick or drop you. Also, make sure you both are going to the airport at different timings. One of you can leave home early and chill with a friend before heading to catch the flight. 

Be careful with social media

If you have a public account, do not post pictures with your boo on social—these will reveal that you are on a vacation with your partner. Even if you have a private account, make sure you are not posting pictures on your feed. You can post them on your IG stories, after making sure your families and relatives can’t see them.