Let's face it, no matter how much you prepare yourself for your wedding day—physically and emotionally—there's always a chance you'll be blindsided by your emotions. Having cold feet on your big day is incredibly common, but the key to dealing with it is to surround yourself with your closest loved ones for support. In most cases, it's your best man or bridesmaids, so be sure to pick the right people for this role. Now, if you're a trusted friend or a bridesmaid, here's everything you need to know about helping your friend navigate any last-minute nerves or doubts on their wedding day.
Remind them that it is normal
First and foremost, reassure your friend that having cold feet is completely normal. Especially on such an important day. They might be second-guessing every choice they've made so far. So it is important to be understanding and acknowledge how they're feeling. In doing so, you're helping to alleviate any doubts they may have about their decision.
Tell them why it is right for them
It's evident that your friend, the bride or groom-to-be, is feeling overwhelmed. As their bridesmaid or best man, it is your responsibility to ensure that they remain confident in their decision. Remind them why they chose to marry this person in the first place. Talk about their partner's qualities or the special moments they've shared that made them fall in love with their partner. By focusing on the positives and reaffirming their initial decision, you can help ease their uncertainty, showing them that this is, in fact, the right path for them.
Let them rant
Among the many overwhelming feelings, frustration is one emotion that will cause your friend to spiral into doubt. In such cases, the best thing to do is to listen and empathise. Allow them to express their emotions without feeling compelled to offer immediate solutions. Sometimes all we need is a listening ear to express and process our emotions. Allowing them to speak freely gives them the support and understanding they need during this difficult period.
Use humour to distract them
When everything else seems to fail, humour can be a saving grace. Redirect their focus by reminiscing about funny incidents that are sure to make them smile, if not burst into a giggle. By doing this, you're not only making them feel better but also distracting them from any wedding-day jitters.
Have a pep talk prepared beforehand
If you know your friend at all, then you know they’re going to have cold feet (if they are likely), so practice your pep talk beforehand. Have a script. Know what you want to say, and stick to it.
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