Here's how to gracefully navigate a plus-one situation at a wedding
It may (or may not) take two to tango.
No one likes or wants to attend a wedding alone. Even more so when there won’t too many people you know. If you’re ever given the option to bring a plus one or go all by yourself, making the right decision does influence your overall experience at the event. While you may have a lot of fun and certainly won’t get bored with a partner, it’s important to respect what the couple wants (has told you on the invite) and ensure that you’ve made a thoughtful choice.
If you’re wondering how to tackle the situation, here’s a guide on how to make the most of the wedding and honour the couple’s wishes.
Check the invitation properly: We mention this for a reason—one often tends to forget what was written on it. An invite (if done properly) often indicates (either explicitly mentioned or left open) if a plus-one is allowed. If it’s crystal clear that you can’t bring anyone, go to the wedding all by yourself.
Respect the couple’s preferences: If the invite doesn’t include a plus-one or explicitly states that bringing one isn’t allowed, it’s important to honour this decision. Bringing a guest without being invited to do so can come across as inconsiderate and may disrupt the couple’s guest list, seating arrangements, and who knows what else. Even if you think that bringing a guest would make it an enjoyable experience for you, remember that it isn't about you.
What’s your relationship with the couple: If you know the couple very well, it’s better to ask them if they’re comfortable with you bringing a plus-one to their wedding. Ask them politely, letting them know who your partner is and why it’s important to you that they should attend the wedding with you. For all you know, the couple might be very understanding and agree to your request (especially if they happen to know them as well). Do not assume anything and ask for their permission.
Mentally prepare yourself to attend alone: Sometimes going along with a partner just isn’t an option, no matter how much you hope for it. Should such a situation arise, look at it as an opportunity to enjoy the wedding alone. Come to think of it, this is now a great chance for you to meet new people and fully immerse yourself in the celebration. Keeping a positive mindset will ensure that you’ll still be able to have a wonderful time.
Be nice and introduce your plus-one at the wedding: If a plus-one is allowed, ensure they’re welcomed into the event. Introduce them to key guests, family members, and the couple, helping them feel comfortable and included. This not only makes your guest feel welcomed but also demonstrates respect to the hosts by ensuring your guest isn’t a stranger to the celebrations.
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